Grandpa,
(Several) years ago I married a very good-looking man who was my dream boat. He was kind, gentle, and hard-working. My only complaint was that he could not father a child for us. He never told me that he was sterile. I left him and soon found a man who could give me children. Now I am hearing rumors that his new girlfriend is pregnant. I am so angry at him! Should I confront him or should I tell him that the new girl is a slut and sleeping around? I feel very cheated by him.
Grandpa says: I believe what you should do is grow up. You married for looks and a steady income. You divorced and remarried to have children. Now you are looking for revenge against the man because you two as a couple could not produce a child. Don’t you see the insanity here?
You did not say in your letter if you were ever medically diagnosed for the failure to conceive. There are many reasons other than infidelity for the new girl friend to be in a family way. I seriously doubt that you would get the ‘satisfaction’ you seek either by confronting him or by trash-talking his girlfriend. You said you left him, so keep it that way. I recommend to your ex-husband that he go to court to get a restraining order on you. He is welcome to show this column to the magistrate.
Grandpa,
I am not asking for any advice. I just want the world to know that my roommate is stupid. I know you won’t print my name so he won’t find out I am the one who wrote this letter. The last straw was when he asked me a dumb question. I have a friend who is a nice lady. He asked if I would mind if he asked her out on a date. When I told him that I would mind very much, he got (angry)! Well, why ask me if he didn’t want my answer? I told him that he cannot bring her home, he cannot have her in our room and he cannot go out anywhere with her. Now he is talking pure nonsense about he is going to move out and leave me stranded for a roommate. He said he will move in with her. He can’t. She already has a roommate. I want the world to know that my roommate is off his rocker. We live in an assisted living facility for seniors. They don’t have co-ed rooms similar to colleges. He can’t take her out because he can’t drive. But he won’t listen. He just rants like a mad man. I don’t need any advice, I just wanted to tell you.
Grandpa says: There is more going on with this man than you might see on the surface. I know nothing of his medical history, hence, I will not try to second guess. As long as he is safe and happy, I would not interfere with his life. Let the professionals at your facility tend to his care.
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