Grandpa,
Memorial Day is coming up. My dad was dead in Vietnam before I was born. I wish I had known him. That’s all I had to say. Thank you.
Grandpa says; Your father wasn’t the only war hero in your family. Your mom is a hero. You are a hero. If you have brothers and/or sisters, they are heroes. Please attend the Memorial Day events with pride in your heart. You gave because your dad gave. God bless you and your family.
Grandpa,
I met a nice lady at a dance. We have been dating for about two months. In all this time, she never told me she has three kids. I like her, but not enough to raise her kids. How should I dump her so her feelings won’t be hurt?
Grandpa says; Are you unhappy because she was not totally honest with you from the start? If so, then follow your heart, be totally honest with her. I did not say brutally honest. Let her know that you do like her, but you are not ready for a family. You have only been seeing her for two months. Neither of you really knows one another. You may be jumping the gun. Once you meet the kids, you may change your mind. The choice is yours. Continue seeing her to see how the relationship develops, or end it.
Consider the possibility that she has exactly the same options. I have been chided for giving the following advice to others, but I will risk it again: Talk openly with her. Open, frank, honest, heartfelt, whatever you want to call it. Be gentle. Be honest. If you are unsure of where you are at in the relationship, admit it. But do not try to accuse her of fishing for a daddy figure. That is in your head.
Grandpa,
About three weeks ago I got a job with a telemarketing company. My job was to call phone numbers using a random dialing machine. I was not to say anything. I was to time how long it took from dial to answer, determine if the answerer was male or female by the voice, and how long they stayed on the phone before hanging up. After three days I quit because this is a tedious job and it annoys those who are called. I can only imagine the fear that some who is being stalked would endure by one of these calls. So I quit. Now the company says that I did not fulfill my obligation to x number of calls in a week so they are not obligated to pay me for the three days. I figure they owe me $198.. I was hired on an hourly basis, not peace work. Who can I contact to help me get my pay?
Grandpa says; Start with the State’s attorney’s office in the county of the company. Then contact the television news persons. They are always looking for stories to investigate. You have the option of small claims court. Beware, there will be costs involved.
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