Grandpa,
My three-year wedding anniversary is coming up. Wedding anniversaries are a big deal to me, probably because I married so much later in life. On our first anniversary I told my wife that I would take her any place she wanted to go. She wanted to go to a fast food drive through and go back home to watch television. I was a bit shocked, but figured that could be romantic. I was wrong. Last year she said she just wants me to order in a pizza. Okay, no cooking, or clean up, that was fine. She sat in front of the computer and played video games. It was just another night in the year. I asked her this year if she would like to go to a comedy club to celebrate. She told me anniversaries are not important and to quit bothering her about them. I am very hurt. She has no gumption to do anything. Would I be wrong to celebrate on my own while she sits alone home?
Grandpa says: That would depend on what and how you are celebrating. If I were in your shoes, I would bring her a nice flowering plant, some sort of a take-out dinner, and plan to spend the evening at home with her. It might be relaxing for her to have her feet rubbed while she plays her video games. I do hope you know that the evening I just described need not be limited to just anniversaries and birthdays. Instead of celebrating the wedding, celebrate your marriage.
Grandpa,
How did you become a grandpa? Had a family, right? Your response to this writer in your column was a dodge. (See The Voice, June 13, 2019). A community of individuals is still water. Families make up the real progressive and successful development of communities, the state, the nation. An individual may create wondrous solutions for mankind, but you created mankind. Russia created a losing religion and in repentance now restores churches and pays women to have kids; the more the larger their income. Want diversity, try England. Bottom line: Encourage increased homosexuality. Comes under Population Control.
Grandpa says: The Old Testament gives us proof of the New Testament. In the OT, God sets down the basic laws of nature and tells us to choose to obey or not. He tells us that there are consequences to every choice we make. Man took that as a license to hate others. In the NT, God sent to us his Son to teach us to love. Our job is to love one another. It is God’s job to judge. I do not suppose to take on the responsibility of being God. I don’t have the wisdom of God. So, I obey Christ’s command to love my neighbor. I feel badly for mortals so intent on judging another humans that they lose sight of the concept: Just like me, my neighbor wants only to live her/his life in peace and harmony. Hate is a cancer that destroys humanity. If I hate my neighbor, he does not get the ulcers. I do.
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