Grandpa,
Hey gramps, what I got stuck in my claw has been stuck on mind for the last five years, I work for an individual that owns a small independent company. He’s honestly a complete jerk and thinks he has his finger wrapped around me (his assuming that I’m not going to leave) I tried leaving once but ended up coming back to work for him after another job fell through, I’ve had enough of him yelling at me and his treating me like a garbage employee when I’ve been the most loyal. I have grown so comfortable with what I do I’m honestly scared to try something new, seeing that I’m in my comfort zone with that line of work I do. Fortunately, I was offered a way better job with benefits and insurance, but it requires me to step out my comfort zone and leave my old job. Questions I have are how do I break the news to my current work I’m leaving, I don’t plan on putting two weeks in because the day I tell them I’m leaving he most likely will tell me to leave. I’m just confused. Help? Thanks.
Grandpa says: Give him the same consideration he gives you when denigrating you in his rage: Very little. Set up a plan. Do you know the day you start your new job? Once you are assured of a start date, and you know you can financially survive from the day you quit until the first check from the new job, put your plan into action. Wait until the next time he blows his stack, then tell him something to the effect of, ‘I am a man. Even a house plant deserves some respect. I am going home now. Call me when your proctologist pulls your head out of your (insert your own wording)’. If and when he does call you, tell him you want an apology in writing. If he sends it to you, hang on to it as a keepsake. But never go back. To Hades with your ‘comfort zone’. You were once new at your current job and forged it into a comfort zone. You have the tenacity to do it again with the new job. There is a saying among the LGBTQ community that works just as well for every person on the planet: “Pride means never having to apologize for being yourself.” Be proud of who you are. This man obviously has some deep control issues. Let them be his issues, not yours. You have better things to do with your life than to cower in fear of anyone.
Grandpa says: Can you believe how quickly 2020 has gone by? It is time again for Grandpa to beg your indulgence. Every Autumn I ask my readers to reflect on what is in their lives for which they are thankful. This year we will publish Thanksgiving Gratitude letters in the November 19 issue, one week before Thanksgiving Day. In order to have your letter included in the Gratitude Column, please have your letters to Ask Grandpa in by November 1.
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